The other day, I told my mum that I wanted to run away from
New York and go back home, because the city isn’t all it’s cracked up to be,
and my job is massive pile of corporate EW. She told me to grit my teeth and
get used to it; there’s nothing actually badly wrong, it’s not forever and, in
all fairness, I’ve had it pretty cushtie up 'til now - I have to
grow up and face the real world some time.
This is all, ostensibly, true. I can’t give one factual,
unemotional reason as to why I should definitely be at home right now and not
in my blazer and pencil skirt in my central midtown job. In fact, saying that I’ve
had it cushtie up until now implies that my current situation is a decrease in
circumstances, which it most certainly is not. Career-wise, I have gone from
speaking to graduates on the phone about library buildings and to eccentric London
folk about old coins, to speaking to executives and directors of an array of
international companies about … well nothing much. Their chat is shit. And this
is where dear mother, at the risk of sounding like a bad teenage record stuck at
1968, I have to disagree with your sage advice. I will not grow up, and as for ‘the
real world’, well that’s just a ridiculous concept that icky people like David Cameron
and George Osborne use in suspect rhetoric about union strikes and NHS cuts. It’s
a semantic device employed by people when they want to make an opposite point
of view look absurd. I mean, nothing could undermine the notion of reality more
really, than the implication that there’s a second, superior and intangible
universe operating within wider society, that only people that hate their jobs
are a part of. I’ll continue in my blissful muggle ways if you don’t mind.
When I first arrived in the states, before I found a house,
I was staying in hostels. In these places a high number of my dorm-buddies were
permanent travellers, who at 23, 26, 28 had not yet ‘settled down’, and had no
plans to. I’m not advocating this as a permanent lifestyle, and I doubt they
would either, but my point is they were still adults. They still had an amazing
amount of experience under their belts, and all taught me loads. And they were
very, very happy. Despite the fact that I am and adult, I’m also young, and it’s
almost inevitable that I’m going to make mistakes. Although, I think that’s
what you’re meant to say after you’ve made a mistake. It’s probably not the
same to use it as justification for doing something that you’re pretty sure is
going to turn out later to be a mistake. Which seems to be what I do. I’ve let myself
skip school, drink too much, smoke, treat boys badly, jump of high things and
so much more, purely by saying to myself before-hand ‘well, we all make mistakes!’
in the same off-hand tone someone might say ‘well, it is fair-trade!’ to
justify spending £5 on a tub of Ben & Jerry’s. There might have to be a cut-off point one day. This may not be a practicable system for life.
It’s funny really that I’m feeling so homesick for England
and tired of New York, because there’s probably something of an American influence
at play in my sudden, sentimental desire to drop everything and run. It’s
not very reminiscent of the British stiff upper lip; the culture that I miss so
much. Ironically, it’s probably in part the Romantic, openly emotional side of American
culture having an effect on me that’s made me frank, sincere and dramatic enough to see upping and leaving the country as a viable option.
And, in all fairness, I can’t say I’ve been putting maximum
effort into fitting in. Being Englishly reserved and reasonably unwilling to
talk to strangers is a general handicap, but it’s one that I’ve not been particularly active in trying to rectify. A slightly moody, reclusive version of myself is
emerging, one that doesn’t have very much interest at all in making friends in
this ludicrous city, where no one has a washing machine or t.v. but nearly everyone
has a really small dog which they actually carry around in a bag (I know, I thought it
was only Paris Hilton too). But if that’s what it’s doing to me, why should I
make the effort to stay? I’m a nicer person in England. So yes, it’s all on me.
I do not blame you, New York City, but I want to come home. The corporate
environment is no place for a girl like me. And if I’m going to do something I
later regret, now is the time. Sylvia Plath ditched it all in, and she did
alright …
Don't go all Bell Jar on me now! xx
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